The Importance of Sisterhood

It is incredibly important for women to have a support team of other women. Not only is it in our nature to thrive in community, but as women we naturally long to experience our ever changing cycles along side other women. It is in our nature to witness, honor and support the initiation of our soul into the varying stages of womanhood throughout our life. We have the capacity to be loving mirrors for each other, not competitors; And uplift one another as we heal and empower ourselves.

In sisterhood we get to explore how to be fully ourselves, honest, open and vulnerable with one another; opening ourselves up to experience a very rich, fulfilling sense of connection, deep care, nourishment and love. Our fears can more easily be alchemized into deeper understanding, compassion and wisdom and new dreams that honor the well being of the Earth can anchor in through each of us.

When we choose to come out of isolation and reveal the tender underbelly, the raw emotion, the desire, the roaring lioness and the infinite multifaceted parts of ourselves, we see that we are actually more alike than we may have realized. We see that at the heart of it all, we are human. We love, and want to be loved. We feel, we bleed, we cry and we laugh. We have similar fears and similar longings. At the heart of it all, we want to be who we are and be loved, regardless of how messy, vulnerable, powerful, tender or raw we might feel. This is the beauty of sisterhood.

Holding the Messiness Sacred

One thing I know for sure is that life is an absolute miracle and mystery…and this miracle is absolutely messy and chaotic. Life is constantly renewing itself through changing cycles and seasons; through renewed life, death and rebirth over and over again…and we as human beings reflect these cycles and changes within our own bones. We all go through the challenge and the constant change, we all experience the vast spectrum of emotion and we all have a golden thread that is calling us to deeper fulfillment, healing and well being. This golden thread undeniably affects and influences those around us as well as it deeply affects the planet.

When women gather together in sisterhood, we become like a neural network of knowledge, wisdom, care and compassion (informed by our own experiences) that we Naturally and intuitively share with one another. Like mycelium share information beneath the earths soil, women share and activate the healing, inspiration and wisdom that is needed in the collective group. We are connectors with a tap root into the earth that guides us to nurture and support the highest good and well-being of all life. This is a woman’s natural way of being.

When women choose to connect in this way, we create space for the messiness and realness of life to be witnessed and held. We deepen in understanding that we all experience the messy, raw, not so sparkly parts of life…And rest in the acceptance that this messiness is actually absolutely normal. When we step into a circle of women, we remember that we actually don’t have to “do” this life alone, nor do each one of us have to be perfect or put together 100% of the time in order to be valued or considered worthy of love and connection. We remember that we can actually be who we are in our wholeness and in our humanness; we can actually share our tears, our longings, our wide spectrum of emotions, our pleasure, our joy and our dreams while being fully embraced, loved and supported to do so. We begin to untangle and release shame and support greater self love as we explore and share who we really are.

Honoring Life Cycles

Women have a very primal intuitive awareness of changing life cycles and an innate desire to honor them. Like the earth, we change constantly throughout each month and throughout our lifetime. It is a common practice in indigenous cultures around the world for women to initiate each other from birth to childhood, childhood to maidenhood, maidenhood to motherhood, motherhood to wise elderhood and elderhood into the great mystery. As we honor and initiate each other, we get to experience the gift of fully witnessing, experiencing and holding sacred all of the feminine cycles of life.

So many women in our western colonized culture have become disconnected from these rituals of initiation and often subconsciously seek to fill the void in ways that may not fully serve their well being. When we gather in a circle of women, there is a remembering and reawakening of what it feels like to be initiated, seen and honored for the cycle that we are presently in. We learn together how to connect to and have reverence for our feminine body as a sacred temple. There is a softening into the womb…a deep inner acceptance and an activation of self love.

Celebrating Our Uniqueness

All women are so uniquely beautiful. We all have so many gifts to share and like a flower bud, we all have a natural desire for our gifts and our beauty to be expressed, cherished and witnessed in the world. When we stay stuck in comparison, we actually begin to see other sisters as threats to our own well being. When we compare our sex lives, our outer success, our financial status, our physical beauty, our creative abilities, our romantic partners…it creates a feedback loop of feeling envious of others, causing a lack of self worth and a need to compete. Comparison causes women to be unable to see or recognize their own unique beauty, sacred gifts and potential for expression in the world.

When we bring women together in the safe container of sisterhood we create the opportunity to give voice to, and heal, wounds of comparison and jealousy that rise for each of us; we begin to realize that who we are, exactly as we are now, can be celebrated and loved…and that each of us are just as important and powerful as the other. There is no hierarchy in circle.

We get to practice being in integrity with one another and learn to honor the success, celebrate the beauty and encourage the expression of sacred gifts that want to be birthed as part of a co-created healthier happier world through each of us. We begin to see that when one woman thrives, we all thrive. When one woman steps into her courage and expresses her radiance in the world, we all have permission to do so. When one woman is vulnerable and reveals her pleasure, her grief, her joy or her anger, it gives all of us permission and freedom to do so as well. This is the medicine of sisterhood.

So, today I am curious to ask you….

What is your relationship like with other women at this time? Do you currently feel connected in sisterhood? Do you have a longing for more safe and meaningful relationships with women in your life? Who in your life do you feel drawn to connect with more deeply? What steps can you take to reach out to sisters that are in alignment with your values and open the gate for more vulnerability, healing and connection?

If you’d love some support in coming out of isolation, creating more meaningful connections, alchemizing the jealousy and comparison, and shifting into more self love I would be so honored to work with you through one on one somatic life coaching sessions. If you are in the Santa Fe area, I would also love to invite you to monthly sister circles and to a monthly cacao Embodiment and Voice Ceremony for women beginning in 2020. If you’re interested in connecting, reach out to me at info@mayarose.love.

With so much love,

Maya Rose