Honoring your own feelings, desires and boundaries as they rise in new intimate relationships can be an intimidating and uncomfortable experience. Have you noticed that in your own life you tend to shy away from speaking up for yourself during intimacy? Have you ever felt disconnected from your own feelings, or dismissed your own body signals to slow down or pause? In this article you will learn 8 great tips that will support you in honoring your boundaries while cultivating greater self-trust, confidence and fulfillment in your new intimate relationships.

**1) Get to Know Your “Yes” & “No”…On Your Own Time**

Taking space to get to know the qualities and signals of your uniqe “Yes” and “No” on your own time, will help you identify them as they rise while interacting with others. Connecting to your body sensations and emotions are some of the most effective ways to do so. What does it feel like in your body when you have a clear yes and clear no?

Sometimes, not having a clear yes or no is guidance in and of itself to pause, take the pressure off and perhaps receive support from a loving guide to gain more clarity.

2) Hit the Pause Button & Connect to Your Sovereign Energy

Good news is, you get to pause your intimacy if it’s moving too fast for you, or if you feel unsure or uncomfortable in any way. You get to choose what’s right for you as a sovereign beautiful human being.

When you choose to pause, create some space to take deep slow breath’s into your body. Tune into your sovereign energy and ask your beautiful wise spirit “What do I…and What Don’t I feel comfortable with at this time?” Once you find clarity, you will set yourself up to more clearly communicate with your new partner.

3) Get Out of Obligation & Into Integrity

If you feel stuck in indecision, uncertainty or lack of clarity around how you feel or what you do and don’t desire, I invite you to Get Out of Obligation & Into Integrity. Integrity does not equal self-sabotage.

Notice if your thoughts and feelings are steeped in self-doubt, guilt or obligation and get curious with yourself. What would you do if you were not obligated? What would it feel like to be in full integrity with yourself?

4) Use Your Voice

Your voice is such a powerful gift! Communicating your boundaries, feelings and desires as they rise can be uncomfortable at first but becomes easier and more natural the more you do it. Using your voice is a way to orient your partner throughout the journey so that you can continue to connect from a place of love, self-responsibility, integrity and respect.

I invite you to Lean Into Courage and from your heart communicate what you need…You’ve got this!

5) Be willing to feel the discomfort that might rise as you speak & live your truth

Sometimes, honoring your boundaries doesn’t always result in sparkles and love bubbles right away. Sometimes speaking up for yourself can mean you “trigger the heck” out of someone…maybe other’s get uncomfortable...your partner feels sad or angry…or maybe they feel disappointed or frustrated.

Honoring your boundaries and living your truth takes courage. It takes the willingness to feel the discomfort of potentially triggering or disappointing someone you care about.

6) Co-Create Clear Agreements

Taking space with your new partner to co-create clear agreements prior to intimacy is a way to set yourself up to experience that which is in alignment with your full Yes! Co-creating clear agreements helps to prevent assumptions from being made, boundaries from being crossed (if there are any), and prevents obligation from being your main motivation.

Create a space where you and your partner can vulnerably share what you feel a full yes with exploring and…what you don’t feel open to exploring, present time. This can be an exhilarating and fun convo that you can always come back to as things shift and change.

7) Cultivate Self-Love

When we have a loving connection to ourselves, it’s much easier to honor and respect the Yes’s and No’s that rise within us…we are more able to live in alignment with our truth. When we love ourselves, we are also more able to honor and respect our intimate partner as their boundaries and feelings arise as well. Cultivating self-love is a beautiful and rewarding journey that empowers each of us to live a more fulfilling, sovereign, and beautiful life.

What self-love rituals do you feel called to implement into your life today?

8) Receive Support

Getting to know your own boundaries, feelings and desires takes time. Sometimes it can feel scary to hear or feel your real truth. Receiving support from a loving guide is a powerful way to explore the inner realms, get clear and navigate the journey with confidence.

If you would love deeper support around accessing your own wisdom, gaining clarity around your boundaries, connecting to your emotions and cultivating greater self-love you can email me at info@mayarose.love. It would be an honor to support you.

Many blessings on your journey,

Maya Rose

Tips for Honoring Boundaries in New Intimate Relationships